The single-net mother felt sorry for Yuanmao when she was mistressed for five years. The psychological counselor revealed that there are two common reasons for men’s affair in marriage. How to effecti

The online red-haired mother (Lin Yuxin), who interacts with her family, posted a message yesterday that she admitted that she had been a third party in other people's marriage for 5 years and apologized to the chief palace. The rosy mother said that when she divorced at the age of 21, she became a single mother and had many ups and downs. Because she could not bear the feeling of loneliness, she made mistakes and intervened in other people's families, and was unable to recover from unintentionality. She felt guilty about her five-year extramarital affair. Last year, she sincerely apologized to the official palace. Although the other party did not agree, she still wanted to apologize again and blamed her faults.

Psychiatrist: Taboo relationships mostly originate from this psychological effect

Psychiatrist Yang Tengjin said that people especially want to pursue relationships that are more taboo in society because they have a sense of "adventure", which can bring stimulation and freshness to their daily lives. These relationships may also be a way to escape daily pressure and regulations, bringing people a sense of freedom to escape from reality.

Psychological counselor analyzes two common reasons for male outings

Psychological counselor Lin Cuifen said that many men outings in marriages "not setting up a good line", and self-hypnotizing each other is just friends who can chat with. On the other hand, they feel that they cannot get love and sex in marriage and are "frustrated", lack the opportunity and space for communication and coordination, and turn out to seek out.

A large part of men's satisfaction with marriage life comes from "sex life", and women account for a large proportion of "emotional communication"; after the sweet wedding period, due to factors such as "bringing children, working", women focus on life and children, and they are prone to ignore male needs and reject men's needs more times. In the past, husbands feel discouraged and may enter the burnout and pressure period, and the first thing they are killed is sex.

"But the relationship will reverse in the later stage." Lin Cuifen said that many cases were rejected when the children grew up and the wife started to talk about love with her husband. The bridge between them had been disrepair for a long time. Some people think that "the old couple is talking about feelings and secret behaviors are not known where to start." However, many cases were caused by the man who turned his mind in marriage and even loved him.

Does between husband and wife should not become a battle of power

Lin Cuifen said that the importance of sexuality should be paid attention to between husband and wife. Many relationships are prone to weaponizing sex, and "slapping each other with dissatisfaction and anger" to "reject secret behaviors to the other party over time". Over time, the mutual atmosphere of each other becomes a "tug of war of sexual power"; if this kind of problem is often labeled as "old husband and wife" and is slapped in the late stage of the relationship, it is actually the inflict buried in the early stages of the relationship.

Regarding the business of husband and wife relationships, Lin Cuifen suggested that even when the relationship enters the period of burnout and pressure, they should take a good look at each other's "sex and emotional" life, retain physical strength and time to each other, adjust the emotions, create a good atmosphere, and feel love and being loved from it.

When a divorced person chooses a partner, he often has friends or colleagues. If there is a split in the marriage, he can ask the consultant for help. "Taiwan's single mother, father or reorganized family has been seen in Taiwan." Lin Cuifen said that when a couple who leave a marriage is looking for a suitable partner in the future, they will not be intimate with "married people". They are usually friends and colleagues in the office. "There are often opportunities to interact with each other" and become closer and closer, and they will become more and more friends.

Love sometimes is like quicksand. At first, I don’t feel trapped in. When I find out, I’m already unable to move. Both sides may think that “just friends can chat with”. Therefore, they do not set the lower boundary from the beginning, and constantly comfort themselves, but they only interact and make friends very happy, but they often cross that boundary line in the process.

Lin Cuifen encourages that when a couple has a relationship, if they have any needs, they can propose to discuss with their partners. Sometimes when the discussion space in the relationship does not exist, they can also consider the help of a psychological counselor through a third party to guide their feelings in the relationship; but in reality Usually, the husband is found out and seeks consultation in order to save the marriage. If it is an outsourcing person who is not satisfied with the purity of sexual intercourse, the proportion of family return is high. However, if the emotional and psychological needs are both external and satisfied, it is already a component of love, and sex is just a product of extension. It is usually difficult to return to the family at this time.

Responsibility Edit Wu Yifan