How to avoid siblings tearing and tearing their faces in order to fight? The program revealed that the parents left behind "invisible property" and it was a concern

Many families often cause conflicts due to distribution when facing property distribution. Experts remind that what really affects the inheritance relationship is often not the amount of money, but the emotion. Japanese Association Takashi Amano pointed out that in addition to preparing taxes and tax payments in advance, if parents can leave their children with "invisible property" during their lifetime, they can make the family more harmonious.

Equal distribution of property does not mean that there will be no dispute over whether the inheritance of property can be successful. There are three key points: "Not for the inheritance", "doing taxes well", and "ensure sufficient financial resources". When arranging property, the most important thing parents need to pay attention to is to take special care of children who may be weak in the future.

For example, if a parent runs a clinic and only one of the two children is a doctor, then the land, building, doctor status and reputation of the clinic will be handed over to the children who are doctors. At this time, more concerns must be given to another child who is not a doctor.

Amano Takashi said that when helping with the Stand-alone, they would recommend that parents not only distribute their property, but also leave warm words on the emotional level. For example, in the book, I write: "I regard you as kind and friends as gifts", so that children can feel valued. Such "mood care" can often reduce conflicts, and even if the property distribution is not completely equal, children are more likely to accept it.

The parents' existing relationship can make it more smoothly

The importance of relationships can be best demonstrated in a case. A father insured a insurance policy with his daughter as his beneficiary during his lifetime. The reason is that when my father was hospitalized many years ago, the first person who went to the ward to take care of him was his daughter. My father was deeply moved and even contacted the insurance insurance business again to take out another insurance policy, hoping to provide this daughter with more protection. When my daughter later learned about this, the storm continued.

The care shown by parents can comfort children more than money. Therefore, more communication with children and leaving words of thanks and love during their lifetime can avoid conflicts more than a simple distribution of property.

The real reason for brothers and sisters: Comparison between brothers and sisters often comes from the psychological shadow of being "compared" for many years. For example, when I was a child, I was often used by my parents to compare with my brothers and sisters, or I kept hearing the words "your sister is more outstanding" in school or friends.

Although it may be forgotten as an adult, the old wound will be torn open again when distributing the industry. In order to "return fairness" or "certify parents' love", it is easy to lead to conflict. Takashi Amano advocated that brothers and sisters should not be competitive opponents. For children who continue to inherit, they must remember that "the visible property is not the only property."

"Invisible property" is the key to resolving disputes

Economic scholar Robert H. Frank proposed the concepts of "status finance" and "non-status finance": status finance is a property that can be compared with others, such as money, real estate, stocks; non-status finance is something that can directly bring happiness without relying on comparison, such as health, love, freedom, sense of destiny, education, memory, etc. The happiness of status and finance is short, and the happiness of non-status can last for a long time. More importantly, non-status wealth will not be taxed.

Therefore, if parents can inherit non-status and wealth to their children during their lifetime, such as family values, life attitudes, and affection, they can effectively reduce the risk of conflict.

Big pen inheritance does not mean happiness

We often pursue immediate results, and we also like the clear and visible things of "digits" because they can bring strong pleasure in a short period of time. Takashi Amano's years of experience in helping with inheritance and inheritance have made him deeply feel that the industry struggle between brothers and sisters is often because of their focus on status and wealth, that is, quantifiable and comparable wealth.

If every brother and sister can re-examine their inner non-status wealth, such as the love, memory, value and life wisdom left by their parents, they can observe the "family that cannot be measured by money" left by their parents. In this way, the conflict between them will be greatly reduced.

In fact, some people have inherited the cash of cash, but because it is too easy, they are slack and even addicted to high-risk investment and gambling, and end up with nothing. On the contrary, people who know how to cherish their love, education, health and wisdom in life can still achieve lasting happiness even if they don’t have much money.

Thinking Change to Avoid Tear of Hands and Foots

Takashi Amano concluded: "Leaving a memory is a silver card, leaving a life attitude is a gold medal, and money and property is just a copper card." If parents can prepare in advance, let their children realize that in addition to money, they can also reduce conflicts, but also become a means of gratitude and connection between their families.